Four years ago, I had just found out that I was pregnant and that my ex-husband was lying about having a job… again. I was morbidly obese, starting my senior year of college, about to do my student teaching, and paying the bills through… well, prayer. I was petrified.
I am a fucking Librarian!!!!!!!
Suck my dick statistics, because I left the bastard and…
I. Did. It.
I followed through on all of my dreams and got that Bachelor’s degree and then that Master’s degree and now the job! My divorce didn’t lower my station in life. It opened up a universe of possibilities and opportunity.
- Women who divorced between 2010 and 2011 were more likely to receive public assistance than men who divorced during this time, with rates being 23% and 15%, respectively.
- Of women who divorced between 2010 and 2011, 27% reported a household income of less than $25,000.
- Children of divorced parents are twice as likely to drop out of high school and less likely to attend college.
- While men are financially better off than women after a divorce, they are more likely to suffer more emotionally.
I’m sorry. What was that? I can’t hear you over the sound of my I’m a Librarian, BITCHES!!! dance coupled with my ROAR OF AWESOME!!!!
A little bit o’ this…
… and a little bit o’…
.. and some nce, nce, nce.
Yeah. They don’t let me dance at stuff.
Today, I talked the ear off the lady at the gym who asked why Librarians need a Master’s degree. Yesterday, I bought myself these… because I am just that cool.
Sometimes, divorce is not a failure. It is the righting of a path. I wasn’t meant to be the miserable wife of a sociopath. I was meant to be right here.
Gail: “The divorce was not the mistake. The marriage was the mistake. The divorce was just what was required to correct that mistake.”
I’m not advising you to leave your husband because he won’t try that new thing in bed or he won’t put his fucking shoes away. If there’s something to salvage, fight for it. If you’re fantasizing about a life where he dies, through no fault of your own, because you’ll finally be free… if the marriage is truly awful and he or she is a truly poisonous person… there is a better life out there. No matter how scary it feels to go in search of it, it is so very worth it.
“It’s a hard thing to leave any deeply routine life, even if you hate it.” – John Steinbeck
Yeah. I looked that up.
I’m doing a happy jig for you right now!! Congratulations!!! Love this so much!!
Thank you! I’m super excited!
Oh my gosh, so much YES. I’m 100% with you, particularly here: “Sometimes, divorce is not a failure. It is the righting of a path. I wasn’t meant to be the miserable wife of a sociopath. I was meant to be right here.” Thank you for writing my exact feelings so articulately.
You are absolutely welcome. My life LIT UP after my divorce and while it’s not always the only option, sometimes it truly is the best choice.
HAHA this post is bloomin’ hilarious! Followed!!!
Awesome, Belle! So happy for you! 😀
BTW, I saw your request to access my blog, but, unfortunately, I have to be completely private right now. Sorry. I’m in a very dark place; I’m not strong and independent and shining. But I’ve taken steps that will one day lead to my independence and emancipation. I love Gail’s words: “The divorce was not the mistake. The marriage was the mistake. The divorce was just what was required to correct that mistake.” She’s brilliant. Something else I read on another blog rang true, too: “I cannot fix him; only he can fix himself. It is not my job to fix him.”
So four years for you, huh? Well, hopefully I’ve only got another two here. So glad you got out of your awful situation and away from your bad marriage. And congrats on the new job! 🙂
Thank you so much! I assumed your blog was private for legal reasons and that’s understandable. I look forward to reading it once you’re done with all of that.